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Entry: Gay Marriage Sucks! Link: http://www.takimag.com/site/article/gay_marriage_sucks#31733 Post contents: First, Justin, thanks for the great essay! You seldom let me down! There are very few out there today who address gay marriage from this POV--or at least have the nerve to--and I'm so glad you have. I hold both the "progressive" and Biblical American blather gay marriage with equal contempt. Geoographer opined: "...homosexuals can’t breed (but of course there now is another hysterical movement claiming that it’s a “human right” to have babies. Probably these consumerists (the only living ideology today is consumerism = childishness with hubris) also think that it’s a “human right” to escape the laws of nature." You are correct, but I'll fill in the blanks a little. American culture promotes baybee consumerism, especially amongst women, but men are not immune from the siren call. Advertising,the media, churches, employers, peer pressure all teach that without a baybee you are incomplete. There is something intrinsically wrong with you. God is punishing you. Why does He let that 15 year old neighborhood slut have a baybee when I can't. Or as Rosie O'Donnell has told adopted kids, "God put you in the wrong tummy and now I have to fix God's mistake." (can I make this up?) Maury's "Who's The Daddy" shows must drive them over the brink. The adoption and hightech repro industries play on this constructed "need" and in the process reap millions if not billions of dollars from the pocketbooks of wannabe parents. The discourse on the human "right" to have babies originated with desperate baybee-hungry infertiles who argue that they have a "right" (nay a Constitutional right, sometimes!) to have children. These children can be someone else's through adoption or their "own" (more or less) through all manner of machocistic expensive hightech repro procedures--anything from turkey baster therapy to sperm spinning to embryo implantation with little thought to the consequences their entitlement has on the children they acquire or the ethics involved. Marriage and children is a heterosexual model and queerness is not. I've never known a queer who wants to be married or to be a parent. But I know plenty of fit-in GLBT people who do. The difference is political, sociological, and aesthetic. Marriage and children in the US are the keystone of "normality." Those of us, straight or queer who are husbandless/wifeless and/or childfree by choice are considered transgressive and selfish. How refusing to acquire something you don't want is selfish has never been explained. The current obsession with gays and lesbians with adoption and artificial reproduction is an outgrowth of the well-in-place hetero model of entitlement. I don't know how to stop this silliness outside of "teaching by example." People need to know, from an early age that there is nothing wrong with not having children; that you can have a great life without them. No doubt some of our devout contributors here will disagree. Sent at: 2008 11 20