March 09, 2011
Dear Delphi,
I married at age 25. Now, ten years later, my wife is divorcing me; she says she has met another, richer man. Last week my soon-to-be-ex-wife called the police and told them I was beating her up during one of our “We are going to try to make this work” conversation/fights. I had not touched a hair on her head! When the police arrived, they obviously did not believe her crazy claims and left! It is my first divorce, so I am not so sure what is acceptable behavior, but this seemed a little overboard. What should I do? Thank God we never had any children. I am worried about what comes next. The situation could get out of control, and I am not sure how to handle her growing insanity.
“Disillusioned in Denver
Dear Disillusioned in Denver,
Your ex is certifiably crazy. She has gone way overboard accusing you of domestic violence for the hell of it. Her behavior is not acceptable and you should not put up with it! Get out! Get out of the house, get out of the marriage, and, yes, thank God you never had any children with this Medusa.
Try to maintain contact only through mediators or lawyers. If that’s impossible, secure a video camera to your forehead whenever you are in her presence. She seems like the type who will say anything and do anything to get attention and money. Do not engage on any level. If she calls crying, let voicemail handle it. Do not accept “reconciliatory” or “peaceful” dinner invitations; who knows what scene she has planned for the restaurant? Run like you are running from a burning home, and don”t look back, because in this case you very may well turn to salt.
